Vietnamese customs courting dating
Many courtships actually occur when Vietnamese men and women are only children, through negotiations between parents.
Text messages are very cheap and free for incoming messages.What would probably surprise Western romantics the most is the fact that this is not the mother of a young Vietnamese girl in some rural village.This woman interviewed for an article on love and marriage among the Vietnamese living in the United States, and the marriage she was arranging for her daughter who is a professional woman with a career.(In small villages like the one in Ha Nam where I was born, dating hasn't changed much in the past 50 years.Kids are sort of matched up at an early age, oftentimes jokingly, by relatives or friends.Of course, as in any culture, the parents love their children and want the best for them.
However, what is considered "best" are things like family status of their potential mate, wealth, proximity to their own parents, and health.
" You won't find that phrase, or a lot of other slang terms used in text, in any Vietnamese dictionary.
It is a language development that is occurring naturally as the young people look for their true love.
Ngo tells of cafés where young professionals sit for coffee to the ongoing sound of beep after beep as sweet messages are sent and received.
One very interesting part of this custom is the way that the emoticons (the smiley faces and such formed by using punctuation like :-) and more) have been brought up to a fine art by the courting Vietnamese.
These betrothed children, unless they move from the village for work or some other reason, almost always end up marrying the person their parents pick.